Comments on: Growing Up the Daughter of a Serial Father: Video + 10ish Facts On Fatherless Kids You Probably Didn’t Know

By: If My Graves Disease is Getting Better, Why Do I Feel Worse? :: Heavy Mentalist

If My Graves Disease is Getting Better, Why Do I Feel Worse? :: Heavy Mentalist — Wed, 21 Dec 2011 18:14:55 +0000

[...] made a two-part video discussing this situation, Growing Up the Daughter of a Serial Father, to talk out some of my emotions about this and to help spread awareness about how growing up [...]

By: Cherryl

Cherryl — Sun, 02 Oct 2011 18:57:36 +0000

@Ira Bolden, Jr., Ira, thank you. But this has always been me…when people actually get to know me instead of just assuming things from what they see on the outside. And of course the fact that I had a serious illness without knowing it for years due to poor health care certainly didn’t help my communication skills…or the fact that no one in my “family” even seemed to notice, which is part of the reason I suffered so long…but anyway, this was always me. Ask mom about some of my speeches from when I was in middle and high school. She will tell you that the person in this video is just a bigger version of the person who wrote those middle school speeches.

By: Cherryl

Cherryl — Sun, 02 Oct 2011 18:50:07 +0000

Wow…I wish I could too. I wish I could talk to all moms who are able to let their kids see their dads, but for whatever reason don’t. They have no idea how much they are hurting their children. The only reason I could see a father not being allowed to see his children is if he is/was physically or mentally abusive to the child or the mother. Otherwise…even if the man isn’t paying child support…I see no other reason to keep children away from their fathers. Fathers are half of why a child exists, and without that half in their lives they can feel like something is missing in them forever, and they search for what’s missing in other people, drugs, etc. Have you tried pursing legal action? It may be the only way. Call local legal aid services in your area. They may be able to refer you to some lawyers or mediators who can help you. Take care, I wish you the best!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 30 Sep 2011 03:12:42 +0000

i wish you could talk 2 my daughter mom she wont let me spend time with my baby

By: civ world

civ world — Sun, 28 Aug 2011 05:50:27 +0000

civ world…

Growing Up the Daughter of a Serial Father: Video + 10ish Facts On Fatherless Kids You Probably Didn’t Know :: Heavy Mentalist…

By: Cherryl

Cherryl — Sun, 10 Oct 2010 21:00:03 +0000

@Charlene – here here! you know, i don’t know if you’ve heard of a web protest called No Wedding, No Womb! but something you touched on is the impetus behind the movement–just think a little (or a lot) harder about your decisions, especially when there are children involved, because of the many issues children of divorce or broken homes can have.

i am involved in this and we could use more people getting involved and commenting on the site because it’s basically grown legs and become something like a movement.

find out more at http://www.noweddingnowomb.com

sometimes i wonder how many generations will it take before we realize the damage we have done to so many of our people with reckless (and selfish) decisions?

By: Cherryl

Cherryl — Sun, 10 Oct 2010 20:35:47 +0000

@hadassah – ok your last sentence just gave me chills. i have thought about the concept of “mentorship” in the black community for years, and even approached people when i was younger for mentorship who flat out told me “i don’t have time” and i’m not talking about just a few people.

i can only guess it’s because your other statement is so true–i am not a boomer but the people who i asked for mentorship were…and i can only say the fruit doesn’t fall far from the tree cuz many in my generation, (gen “X”) are equally as selfish.

By: Cherryl

Cherryl — Sun, 10 Oct 2010 20:30:14 +0000

@merryment – so true! and something many people don’t think about. while girls are given dolls and taught to “nurture” in so many ways, boys are basically taught to destroy, that being rough & tumble and smashing your cars together is just “boys being boys”.

then, when daddy time comes many men, especially those who grew up without fathers themselves, just find themselves floundering.

very insightful!

By: Charlene

Charlene — Sat, 09 Oct 2010 12:06:08 +0000

I personally come from a divorced family. I noticed that children who are from divorced family grow up to be either agressive or alienate themselves from society. Let’s talk about males without a father. From what I saw, they become hostile in their teenage years, turn to crime, substance abuse. They also become a very controlling figure when it comes to relationship. They need to have someone to control / listen to them for them to feel adequate. No matter how much you debate on the ways to make up to your children after divorce, the harm has been done. As adults, spare a thought for your child, think twice before you make a decision, particularly think twice before you get married and have children.

By: hadassah

hadassah — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 17:55:15 +0000

I know you had a bad experience with a neighbor, and its hard to find good people and family–I just think, we women, and men need to stop sleeping around, getting pregnant and having abortions as well. many want to adopt.